If I had a choice I would have a little switch on my ear that turned the tears associated with crying “on” or “off”.
Sometimes it’s nice to have a big wet dramatic display along with a sad feeling. It can help it move through.
But at other times, tears are just inappropriate or unwanted. Sometimes, I push the feeling away because I don’t want everyone to see the tears. It’s a personal moment. Or my makeup will smudge. Or I don’t want red eyes all day. So the feeling is buried.
I want to feel the sadness, or whatever feeling it is, without the tears.