It is completely pointless to tell someone to surrender.
In fact, my guess is it’s counter productive.
I met a girl recently that knew she should surrender to find peace, and she was trying her hardest.
If you have to try to surrender its not really surrendering.
From observing her, I realised its pointless to know something without unlocking all the abstract beneath it.
The things blocking her from surrender are the areas she should be focused on.
In other words, surrender is the outcome of a number of smaller processes or ingredients. Surrender isn’t the main piece.