In order to preserve the self, the truth ferret has to be shoved up a trouser leg.
In other words get rid of the little bugger, because all it does is allow someone else to be the referee of your choices
Practice good living, free choices, discernment under certain circumstances (emotionally stressful times are not the place to roll out potentially sensitive information). And be authentic with yourself.
Be authentic with yourself!
Then communicate as clearly as you can the truth worm in your heart.