Someone asked me that if you are forgiven what obligations are placed on you.

Having considered it abstractly:

Seriously, none.

Forgiveness that comes with obligation is not forgiveness at all.

As humans we might expect evolution of the forgiven person or more mindfulness in a relationship. Maybe a learning or change in behaviour. If that is not forthcoming the other person when similarity hurt can chose to move along. I as he forgiven have no obligation to stop that from happening.

I have seen examples of apparent forgiveness with caveat or continued punishment. I don’t see that as true forgiveness and instead it’s a poor compromise at best.

Normal healthy adult relationships with good communication and authenticity are really rare. It’s a shame but there aren’t many role models for it. Everyone should find one and learn and grow.

Maybe the ability to forgive is in itself an indicator of emotional maturity.


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